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Shane Koyczan "To This Day"

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9 Daily Habits > Happiness

Hike to Jack London Park

A few of us carpooled to Jack London Park for a lovely hike through a few of the trails in this special park. It was a sunny, warm and blue skied February Saturday. A peaceful and fun day. The trails were just hilly enough to be a bit of a challenge but not too hard. Afterward we drove back down to Glen Ellen and ate a delicious late lunch at the Fig Cafe. Yum! A great Saturday, indeed.

view of the vineyard

jack's sleeping porch

not helpful trail signs

a mighty oak

9 Daily Habits That Will Make You Happier Source

Happiness is the only true measure of personal success. Making other people happy is the highest expression of success, but it's almost impossible to make others happy if you're not happy yourself.

With that in mind, here are nine small changes that you can make to your daily routine that, if you're like most people, will immediately increase the amount of happiness in your life:

1. Start each day with expectation.

If there's any big truth about life, it's that it usually lives up to (or down to) your expectations. Therefore, when you rise from bed, make your first thought: "something wonderful is going to happen today." Guess what? You're probably right.

2. Take time to plan and prioritize.

The most common source of stress is the perception that you've got too much work to do.  Rather than obsess about it, pick one thing that, if you get it done today, will move you closer to your highest goal and purpose in life. Then do that first.

3. Give a gift to everyone you meet. 

I'm not talking about a formal, wrapped-up present. Your gift can be your smile, a word of thanks or encouragement, a gesture of politeness, even a friendly nod. And never pass beggars without leaving them something. Peace of mind is worth the spare change.

4. Deflect partisan conversations.

Arguments about politics and religion never have a "right" answer but they definitely get people all riled up over things they can't control. When such topics surface, bow out by saying something like: "Thinking about that stuff makes my head hurt."

5. Assume people have good intentions.

Since you can't read minds, you don't really know the "why" behind the "what" that people do. Imputing evil motives to other people's weird behaviors adds extra misery to life, while assuming good intentions leaves you open to reconciliation.

6. Eat high quality food slowly.

Sometimes we can't avoid scarfing something quick to keep us up and running. Even so, at least once a day try to eat something really delicious, like a small chunk of fine cheese or an imported chocolate. Focus on it; taste it; savor it.

7. Let go of your results.

The big enemy of happiness is worry, which comes from focusing on events that are outside your control. Once you've taken action, there's usually nothing more you can do. Focus on the job at hand rather than some weird fantasy of what might happen.

8. Turn off "background" TV.

Many households leave their TVs on as "background noise" while they're doing other things. The entire point of broadcast TV is to make you dissatisfied with your life so that you'll buy more stuff. Why subliminally program yourself to be a mindless consumer?

9. End each day with gratitude.

Just before you go to bed, write down at least one wonderful thing that happened. It might be something as small as a making a child laugh, or something as huge as a million dollar deal. Whatever it is, be grateful for that day because it will never come again.

wholehearted

Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.” It’s going to bed at night thinking, “Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging. Brene Brown

Happy Valentine's Day to You!

hard wired for growth

A friend had a new baby and I went to visit when the baby was one month old. She proudly told me that the baby had grown 2 inches in one month! She showed me photos from the day the baby was born and you could see the growth and change. 

Amazing, that Mother Nature. And happy. And wonderful. Awe inspiring, really.

It’s like when you see a weed sprouting between the rocks or, trying to eek a spot out between cracks in the pavement. 

We are primed for growth.

We are hard wired for growth.

I read somewhere that, "You are a life-long project of growth." I like that idea. A lot. 

I am a project. And our DNA, bodies and minds are hard wired for growth.